Pen Pal Safety Tips
Writing to incarcerated individuals can be a meaningful and life-changing experience — but safety always comes first. Here are important guidelines to protect both you and the person you’re writing to:
Protect Your Personal Information
- Use a P.O. Box instead of your home address (recommended).
- Don’t share financial information, bank details, credit cards, or online accounts.
- Don’t share sensitive information about children, family members, or your routine.
Set Clear Boundaries
- You are not obligated to send money.
- If someone pressures you for gifts, ask for loans, or manipulates you — end the communication immediately.
- You decide the pace and type of conversation.
Communicate Respectfully
- Avoid topics that can get them in trouble inside (contraband, violence, escape, drugs).
- Don’t discuss gang activity or facility operations.
Verify Information When Needed
- Remember that some details may be emotional, incomplete, or misunderstood.
- If something sounds concerning, take a moment before responding.
Report Suspicious Behavior
- If a profile violates rules, contact the site admin.
- Never send money to third parties or strangers.
Pen pal connections can be safe, positive, and incredibly meaningful as long as both sides follow simple, common-sense boundaries.